4 Steps to Becoming A Leader Of Character

Becoming a leader of character is a process that never ends. It is a never ending road towards a destination you can never completely reach. But, leaders must take this road daily in order to grow and lead well.

I had the benefit of my father, General Jim Anderson, and four years of training at West Point to guide me towards being a leader of character. One of the reasons I began to blog, consult and coach on this subject is I realized how blessed I was compared to most aspiring leaders. I had guides!

I define character as: Our habitual way of operating.

But how does one develop character without the benefit of a leader of character for a dad or a 4 year leadership school? It starts by understanding how our character is formed.


· Begins with our thoughts.

· Our thoughts become our words.

· Our words lead to our actions.

· Our actions become habits.

· Our habits determine our character.

· Our character determines our destiny.

4 Steps To Becoming A Leader Of Character

1. Character Formation Begins With My Thoughts: I must spend time filling my mind with positive influences.

Do This:

· Read: A leader who doesn’t read has the same opportunity to grow as and illiterate.

· Mentors/Friends: I become most like the people I spend the most time with. Spend time with people who already are where or who I want to be.

· Turn Off TV: It amazes me how much more time I have to read when I fast from the television.

Avoid This:

· Reading Pulp: Entertainment magazines, only junk novels, rants on the internet that offer nothing but criticism.

· Negative Friends: These are people who live life for only themselves. They have questionable moral standards and rarely offer anything positive to say.

· Limit Mindless Input: Do we really need to watch EVERY singing competition on TV, SportsCenter multiple times a day, House Hunters reruns or tasteless YouTube videos?


· Read these: the Bible, biographies about role models, leadership books, articles and blogs.

2. My Thoughts Become My Words: I must capture my bad thoughts and share my best ones.

Do This:

· Speak truth- Speak aloud my convictions about right and wrong.

· Be A Problem Solver- Offer positive solutions.

· Share- Character building things I learned this week with others.

Avoid This:

· Gossip- Serves no purpose but to make me feel better about myself.

· Complaining- W